1st of June for 9,000 children in institutions

There are still 184 residential institutions in Romania, where close to 9,000 children live. For them, the 1st of June is one of the few days when people remember they exist. We interviewed 198 children, in the Audit of Children"s Social Services in Romania. Of these, 20% do not even have a beautiful memory in their entire lives. Children do not belong in institutions.

We are the sum of our childhood memories, childhood should be the time of safety, love and care offered by the family. Children who grow up in institutions do not have such memories.

For these children, the true present on June 1st is when we help them get into a family.

Two Awards for HHC at the Civil Society Gala

For ten years, the Gala of the Civil Society (Gala Societății Civile) awards those who promise nothing, but achieve a lot. HHC Romania got two awards: the Award for Impact, received for the Audit of Social Services for Children in Romania, and also the Prize II, for the Programmes section (where organizations with multi-annual projects entered in competition).

So this is about our team. Those who drive the country from one end to another, doing social investigations, psychological assessments, project implementation, negotiations with partners, work with families and their children. This is about those who believe in a dignified Romania, with decent people and respect for the children and the elderly.

These awards are theirs. Because they promise nothing, but achieve a lot.

"Jewels for Hope: The Collection of Mrs. Lily Safra" Auction raises $38 million

Last night, Christie"s auction "Jewels for Hope: The Collection of Mrs. Lily Safra" took place in Geneva. The success was enormous. Hope and Homes for Children is on the list of the organisations benefiting from the funds raised by the amazing jewelry collection sale. For many years, Madame Lily Safra has been a source of support and encouragement  for us. Due to her involvement, we have been able to offer thousands of children the chance to a family, and the childhood they deserve. Rarely have we seen such genuine interest in the quality of life of children. Specific issues, such as summer holidays, Christmas presents, or if children have heating during cold winters - are among her concerns.

The news that we are on Madame Lily Safra"s list of beneficiaries of her amazing jewelry auction brings a new world of opportunities: we are involved in transforming children"s lives. Through her support, we will be able to participate in reforming the childcare system in Romania, thus ensuring that, within the next few years, children in this country will live in families, not institutions.

The Management of Social Services

There are thousands of management positions in social services in Romania, only at the level of the counties. Most of those on the jobs, do not have any  management training, not even in terms of basic principles. Somehow, there is the assumption that management tasks can be done as you go, without any former preparation. On the management jobs, there are social workers, psychologists, legal advisers, teachers, as well as others, who happen to work in social services. On many occasions, the higher you are on the structure of staff, the more politicized the jobs. Being a good professional in social worker, or in psychology, does not imply you are a good manager as well. It does not give you the ability to lead people, to advise them, to help them work better, more efficiently, more productively.

The lack of training in the management of social services makes the system vulnerable, by the absence of support levers, by the lack of empowerment of employees. There are 2.458 managers in social services in Romania. As a direct effect, the quality of care for children and their families suffers. Those over 50,000 employees in social services need advice, encouragement, real support, appreciation. Without these, their work with children is flawed by frustration, by the lack of personal appreciation. Anybody needs constructive feedback and a positive organisational climate, to be productive.

The problem is, in our case, the mentality of "being a boss" relies on the wrong principles: you lead by fear, by shouting, by threatening, by psychological terror, by a patronising attitude. The boss is always right, the boss always talks, the boss should be satisfied.

For a performant social services system, the training of managers is vital. They are the support structure. Only after that is done, can we talk about performance in the social services system.

The Suffering the Lack of Affection Brings

I step into a family home and I see a group of youngsters. Among them, a carer. From upstairs, a four year old girl comes down, the youngest in the house. She has just woken up. Nobody notices her. A young teenage girl pushes a boy. The other youngsters laugh. Annoyed, he pushes the little girl, who happens to be close to him. She falls, she is hurt, but makes no noise. She quickly runs under the table, hiding.

I lean down, lifting the table cloth. The little girl is scared. She does not talk. I try to get a few words from her. Eventually, she comes to me. I take her into my arms and sit on an armchair with her. She rests in my arms, for a long time, without moving. I can feel her breath. And how much she missed a hug.

If in the family homes we cannot bring affection, if we fail to appreciate children"s emotions, it means we still have a lot to work on. We can change the environment, but eventually the children"s feelings of security and happiness are limited to the people around them and their behaviour.

This scene has been haunting me and it puts me thinking. The work with members of staff should be focused on emotions, on attachment, on the children"s need for affection. If not, we are to witness their suffering. The suffering the lack of affection brings.